Free at Last!

Ok so I haven't written in a while. So sue me. Oh and good luck with that because my divorce lawyer already squeezed that little lemon for all it was worth. I know, I'm shocked too.

I'm not sure, but I may be the first person to fight with her lawyer and not with her ex. Why? Cuz my lawyer thought I should go for alimony. He thought I should go for the pension. Hell with that. My ex has no concept of money and he's dating a girl that is about as high maintenance as they come. Yes folks, they are still together. Ain't that sweeeet? Ok, not really. He's a caveman so of COURSE he's blissfully happy. She's cleaning his house, buying him all kinds of clothes (cuz the tshirts he likes to wear isn't good enough), buying him watches when he never really wanted to wear one, a couch. Oh...and giving him all the sex he can take. I figure, he will need the pension to get himself out of debt (again). He's 39 and renting a house which is the first house we bought (and sold) because he knows how to move on SO well. Besides his pension and some 401k through his work, the only equity he has is in a car worth $1000 IF that. And what is he telling the kids? That as soon as he has enough money he's going to buy a harley. Not save up to buy a house again, not saving it in general in case something happens. (because his child support is hefty) He's buying a harley. Gee...and we didn' t work. Hmmmm.

So I told Mr. Greedy Lawyer guy that I don't want his pension cuz I didn't work hard for it and I don't want alimony. Becuase I don't want him saying he doesn't have any money and it's because of me. He's supporting his kids and he can do the damage to himself BY himself. I'm done being his scapegoat. I'm Wheezy Jefferson. I'm moving on up!

As for little ole me? I'm making my way. Dating a guy, a friend actually. Believe me...there are some blogs coming on that one. It's not easy being a 36 year old single person when the last time you had a first date was at the age of 17. But my past has taught me the valuable lesson to NEVER settle. So while caveman is grunting (literally) with his harleytart, I'm going to pursuing the life that I deserve and a relationship that expands who I am and grows along side me.

My coworker and I was talking about it all and I said how I had to get insurance from work cuz I didn't have it anymore....and I said "But I don't have a husband either".

I like to say I lost 220 lbs in one day. Makes me feel SO thin! I got two bags under my eyes, but lost an asshole.

Oh...and he didn't get divorced in the morning and married in the afternoon. Maybe he is waiting to pull her up to a store, buy someting and woo her with the great line "Well you gonna put it on?"

The one that got away....

I guess that saying really is true? Do you know why divorces are so expensive?

BECAUSE THEY ARE WORTH IT!

Towanada!